I need a massage but I don’t like to be touched, what can I do?

Has your doctor suggested that your best chance to reduce your back pain is massage? Or perhaps you’re super-stressed and not sleeping well, a massage can help that, too. Say what? You don’t like to be touched? Houston, we have a problem.

What To Do If You Don’t Like To Be Touched

People don’t like to be touched for a number of reasons:
-they have some issues being in close proximity to others
-they are very ticklish
-they just don’t enjoy the feeling of being touched

The list goes on. What can you do in practice when you are suffering from back pain and need some form of bodywork?

No-Touch, keep-your-clothes-on therapies you can try

Have you ever heard of Reiki healing or cranio-sacral therapy? Both techniques involve no manipulation of skin and you keep your clothes during the session.

Reiki is a stress reduction and relaxation technique that first started in Japan. The therapist will not touch the client’s body – hands simply hover a few inches from the client who lies down on a therapy bed, fully clothed. The practitioner may ask the client if it is OK to gently hold their head, cradling it with their hands. If tha

Craniosacral Therapy is a gentle form of bodywork using light touch. Similarly to reiki, in a  Craniosacral session the therapist will place their hands lightly on the client’s body. The therapist’s hands are tools to listen to the client’s body, assessing areas of tension and imbalance.t feels too intrusive, the therapist will continue hovering their hands without touching the client.

There’s thelesser known Bowen Technique, which requires a small element of touch. The practitioner will work through your clothes applying some medium to light pressure using a rolling technique (in other words, the therapist will use thumbs and fingers to gently move the skin but there’s no strong pressure or use of elbows).

Both Shiatsu and seated massage involve the use of pressure points through the clothes and you decide what level of pressure you are comfortable with.

With Shiatsu you lie on a thin mattress or futon and during the session you lie on your back and for some time on your front with your head turned to one side. With seated massage you sit on a specially designed padded ergonomic chair which is slanted forward. Your head will rest on a padded face cradle and your arms on a padded arms rest.

If you don’t want to get your hair messed up simply ask the therapist to avoid working on your scalp and neck. In a seated massage session the practitioner will typically work on your shoulders, back and arms.

Just try it!

I know I am biased because I am a massage therapist, but because I even convinced my mother, who does not like to be touched, to become one of my case studies when I was studying for my massage qualification. I feel it’s worth giving things a go at least once in a lifetime.

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  • J3551C4

    Depending on the anxiety, I recommend a half-hour, clothes-on/lights-on session. You can focus on the problem areas without a large time commitment.

    • paolaenergya

      Very good recommendation

  • For me, it’s all about who is giving the massage. I hate having a professional massage because I can’t stand strangers touching me. But I love it when my husband rubs my back. Would it, maybe, help to have your significant other give you the massage? Or is what you need something more like an adjustment? A chiropractor might be more helpful and less weird than a masseuse.